Fear ~ It’s only a mindset
With so much uncertainty in life, wars, burglaries, home break-ins, and much more…we become fearful. Our society itself is a very anxious society, changing rapidly. It’s hard to be calm and confident in the midst of troublesome and frightening times.
Fear is an uneasy feeling of dread or alarm, which makes us feel warned about something bad that might happen. When the Bible speaks of fear of the Lord, it isn’t bad. A healthy reverence for the Lord is a good thing. We have no need to be afraid of GOD, but we respect Him highly and hold Him in a position where He is the one keeping us alive. Fear isn’t necessarily bad, but when it is chronic in someone’s life, it can be a difficult and trying circumstance that can overrule someone’s life and control them.
The emotions that are linked with fear:
- Greed can be a fear of not having enough, so the person will crave more and more wealth to feel “comfortable”, which is a feeling that goes away over time. Being comfortable in finances is nearly impossible in our greedy society, because our society recognizes greed as okay.
- Guilt is a fear, or rather feeling of apprehension of our wrongs, which might be discovered or exposed.
- Rejection is a fear of not being accepted.
- Jealousy is a fear of losing control of things that we desire, or the fear of not being “cool” or “up-to-date” as another person or people group is.
- Anger is caused by the fear of not getting our way in a certain situation or event.
- Discouragement is a fear of failure, which can be caused by a lack of self-confidence.
- Indecisiveness is a fear of making the wrong choice. The indifference in decision-making is rooted in fear.
- Anxiety can occur in most situations of fear.
There are many other emotions that are rooted in fear, which is why it is important, that if you deal with more than one of those emotions, then you probably have a lot of fear to deal with in your life.
Realize first, before moving on here, that GOD has not given us a spirit of fear, but of love, and of power, and of a sound mind (2 Timothy 1:7).
Why do people become afraid or fearful?
- Usually from childhood lessons of protection and other forms of training can cause us to fear. Our parents attempt to train us in the best way possible, but sometimes fear can creep in unexpectedly. This is unavoidable, and the child needs to be the one to deal with it directly by facing their fear.
- Our imagination can cause fears. People can visualize something happening and begin to fear it. Some people may have dreams of something bad happening to them, which can create a fear in the person’s mind or heart.
- Fear can be a consequence or sin, or disobedience to the Lord. It’s good for this to be a consequence, however, because we will one day give an account of our lives before the Lord.
- People with low self-esteem can fear that they’re not being accepted or belonging to a specific group.
- Some fears can be rooted in ignorance, because they’re based on misinformation. Learn the truth to deal with this symptom effectively.
- When we doubt GOD’s love and forgiveness, fear can come in and takeover the trust and peace the Lord has for us.
- Sometimes we view GOD as a judge instead of a loving Father, which can be problematic. We can become afraid of GOD instead of wanting to bond with Him in love.
What does fear do to me?
- Fear divides the mind and brings a sense of anxiety to our hearts. This makes it hard to concentrate on day-to-day activities when you’ve got a distraction such as fear.
- Fear can result in panic, which is a sign that fear is controlling you.
- Fear makes people uncertain. Long-term situations such as job security, health, or financial security have unpredictable outcomes. People can be fearsome.
- Fear eats and attempts to destroy relationships. Sometimes it becomes successful.
- Fear steals our joy, peace, and trust in GOD, in people, and in ourselves.
- Fear causes us to delay making decisions because we’re afraid of making the wrong decision.
- Fear can hinder our ability to grow spiritually in Christ. GOD wants you to achieve the purposes He’s set in your heart. But, when you’re anxious or fearful, you can get uncertain about His purposes and choose not to progress.
- Fear can take a toll on your body. Fear with anxiety is linked to a number of different diseases and other health problems, including cardiovascular disease and problems, such as hypertension (high blood pressure). It can also cause chronic headaches, digestive problems (including poor appetite), insomnia (lack of sleep or inability to sleep on a normal basis), etc.
- Fear can also cause people to have attitude problems, which can affect their job, their relationships, and their own self-esteem.
Howto deal with Fear
- Acknowledge the fear. By first admitting it’s a problem in your life, you can begin targeting it.
- Identify the source or its root. Ask yourself quite a few questions. Sometimes writing down the questions with answers can help you pinpoint the problem. Once you know the source, you can begin dealing with it.
- Shift your focus from your fears to GOD almighty. Look to GOD’s Word for help in managing your fears and anxiety. Look below for scriptural aides to help you find the right verses.
- Rely on GOD’s Word every time you fear anything. Isaiah 41:10 is one example, as it says, “Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.”
- Lay your fear at GOD’s feet. He will always keep His promise to protect you. Trust in Him to bring you help when you need it.
The Lord doesn’t want us to fear. But, He understands the situations, so we’re told in Hebrews 4:16, “Let us then with confidence draw near to the throne of grace, that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need.” While our minds can have disorder and trouble, GOD’s Word brings order to our minds. Look to His Word at all times for help in the time of need.
Many people have ways of dealing with fear to help take their mind off of the fear…look at these examples:
- Whistling.Think of a familiar tune and start whistling and focus only on that.
- Hum to yourself. Hum a favorite tune and focus on it.
- Talk to yourself. Of course, many people think this is weird, so make sure to do it when you’re alone.
- Turn the light on. Some people fear the dark or things that go bump in the night…so turn the light on and chill out for a minute.
- Reading a book, magazine, or the Internet can be a way to take your mind off the fears.
- Any other ideas you might have.
2 Kings 1:15
2 Kings 19:6
2 Chronicles 32:7
2 Thessalonians 3:3
1 Peter 3:12-13
1 Peter 1:3-5
1 Samuel 2:9
2 Timothy 1:7
2 Chronicles 16:9
2 Corinthians 1:22
1 John 4:18